So this is the start process of my trial articles that I am trying to publish in local magazines and newspapers. The theme of all of these articles is, "Table Manners." Basically, what is and isn't appropriate to apply when dining out in the real world. Enjoy and please comment!
Question: Is it preferable to be seated side by side or opposite a dining companion?
Many of us walk into restaurants and get startled when we arrive at a booth or table, not knowing which seat to pick (this can be on a date or a simple get together). Obviously, if the server pulls out the chair, that’s the hint for a woman to sit down in that particular spot. What if you enter a chain restaurant of some sort and there isn’t that kind of formal service being offered? Do you sit next to your companion or across from them? How can you tell ahead of time which will work better for a memorable dining experience? Well, that’s what I’m here for!
I have been on many dates in restaurants. Some went well, others not so much. I can tell you this much though, especially as a former server, I get uncomfortable seeing couples sitting side by side in a booth or especially a table. Why? Sitting next to one another provokes one’s “Public Display of Affection” a little too much. Couples start cuddling at the table, not even focusing on what is being served right in front of them. What customer or employee wants to see that (especially if they are single and cannot relate)? Overall, I am telling you right now that if you ever are asked out to lunch, dinner or to coffee, sit ACROSS from that person and not beside them.
Let’s create a hypothetical situation for a minute. Pretend that you are indeed on a date, a blind date to be exact and don’t even know what the man or woman looks like. Do you really want to be forced to sit next them in a booth? You won’t be able to look them in the eye, get a grasp of their personality and trust me, the whole time you’ll be thinking as if you are in a movie theater, waiting to see if they make a move of some sort. Does this sound appropriate to execute in a restaurant setting? No diners, these are not appropriate table manners.
Sitting across from a companion is the perfect scenario to get to know someone. Eye contact is always important and it provides diners with a sense of one-on-one connection. Plus, you get to enjoy your food that is set down right in front of you rather than staring at a wall or the abyss that is the dining room. It is also easier to share food and dessert sitting directly across from someone because side by side, there’s always that chance to bump elbows and knock glasses over. So keep the cuddling for your own time diners (otherwise, the restaurant staff will definitely be talking about your table). The next occasion that comes up where this may seem to be a problem, don’t be that awkward couple. Sit across from your company. Don’t be intimidated as if you are on an interview, just relax. You’ll be able to concentrate more on overall moment itself. Hey, if all else fails, at least you’re not stuck next to the person and can actually savor your food more comfortably and get up to excuse yourself!
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